According to recent Census Bureau data, the District has the lowest ratio of single men to single women in the nation. (And, who knows, you might meet someone.) I also think it would be a good idea to get out and mingle in person. Kelly Ann Collins: Where are you looking for these women? : This may not be your area of expertise, but where's the best place for a mid-30s gay man to meet new men to date? _______________________ Clarendon: The key to dating as a man in D. is to dress well, lie creatively and cover her tab. because a guy that is not a good boyfriend can still be a good friend. Kelly Ann Collins: I don't think we are less adventuresome. I've also met people at bookstores and coffee shops. If he gives you his card in return, it's probably a green flag. _______________________ Bowie, Md.: I think the male-to-female ratio in D. I am a black man and I moved here thinking there was a surplus of women. In your opinion, what is the best venue...classifieds, computer dating or just good old supermarket singles scene? Go ahead and try a site, such as match.com, to get yourself back into the practice of talking to single women. _______________________ Arlington, Va.: I'm a single heterosexual guy, and my friends and I keep hearing about the imbalance in the female:male ratio in the D. So my question is: Where do all the single women go on Friday/Saturday night? I think I need to become more aggressive when I meat guys at parties and other areas by letting my interest known. I am tired with waiting for them to make a move and need to readjust my signals of availability. If you really think you like someone, have a mutual friendster introduce you. _______________________ Fish In Barrel: This is great..us fat, hairy and bald guys can have attitude and pick and choose. It's like fishing with grenades around here, a target rich environment. All you ex-homecoming queens and cheerleaders better be nice to us non-Brad Pitt guys or else you'll be sitting home alone waiting to be eaten by the cat. I see it as my duty to warn women about this unbalanced ratio ... And do you think men go through a "phase" with some of their relationships and then come out of it? Kelly Ann Collins: I have remained friends with lots of flipfloppers ... have run up to me on the street, tossed their biz cards from cars, fallen into me on the ice rink and whispered to me at museums. : Hey, the shy fella that likes to meet people in the real world. Kelly Ann Collins: A Wa Po love connection, perhaps? Do you think it is okay for a woman to approach a man and ask him for a date? Say hello, flirt a little, and then give the object of your affection your biz card. I am a 36-year-old man and have yet to see a predominance of women.
It's not like a job interview or brain surgery or something. _______________________ Kelly Ann Collins: Thanks everyone! is not responsible for any content posted by third parties. 13 at noon ET to offer advice to women fighting the odds. ____________________ WDC: I'm a 39-year-old DWM who would like more success in meeting young attractive women (27-35) for dating. However, whenever we go out to bars or nightclubs in the area on a Friday or Saturday night, the guys clearly outnumber the women, often by by about 2:1. Talking on the phone and emailing are not the same as seeing your date dig his sandwich out of his teeth. then you can check out mutual friends, interests, pics. I prefer to date younger women who are jealous of those older women. This special someone is a person he used to make disparaging remarks about, from everything to her unattractive appearance to her not being his "type." Obviously, I still have a soft spot for this guy. Do you think it is possible to remain friends with someone who is such a "flipflopper", when it comes to relationships? We could drop leaflets about the dating scene in D. I am getting tired of waiting to be approached and it has not happened yet.Check out Cafe Milano (Georgetown), Science Club (Dupont) or Dragonfly (Dupont) on a Thursday (or Friday) evening. You will find lots on Friday night at 1223/Spank, 18th Street Lounge, Mate (Georgetown). I'm fairly conservative and not at all into the bar/club scene. Stick with him if he *really is* special to you ... But I don't think I am hot like Elle Mc Pherson or anything ... Then, you'll feel more confident when you finally do bump into a hottie at the produce stand. E-mail him a few days later and ask him out for a drink. Most of these women are younger and not marriage-minded. It's making for an entertaining lunch hour, though. I can't ENTIRELY complain about it, since I did have two very nice, serious relationships from it, but overall, the approach is a flawed approach -- i.e., you're being set up with someone purely under the pretense of their being your next boyfriend/girlfriend, and it puts too much of a stressor on things. _______________________ This chat: is the creepiest thing I've ever seen on the Post. As a very shy man, the online approach was my best-case scenario for getting out into the dating world once I entered the working world. Why is it that so many people look to dating sites instead of actually going out to meet people? And some people say that it's easier to get to know people via chat / e-mail because people let down their guard. For me "context" means friends in common, seeing how they treat people, etc. That's just over nine-tenths of a man for every woman." (Post, Sept. I don't know what it is - the return of cold and dreary weather, or work, but I'm finding that I'm getting tired of all the normal spots I used to frequent over the summer. C.: I have a friend who can't seem to find a decent date in the whole city. She feels left out of the fun and has given up completely. Of course she is feeling left out, she's hanging out with a bunch of married couples! otherwise, you are going to annoy them and strike out big time.