Sure, some overweight and obese people do get married, but the simple reality is that both men and women want someone who is aesthetically attractive to look at.
It is extremely perilous for Christian women to ignore the fact that the nature of men that God created is to be attracted almost solely to physical appearance.
[and] Reason #1- People underestimate the difficulties that singles face.
Reason #2- Influencers in the church are not often single. For those of you who haven’t read this blog from the beginning, when I posted Practical ways to improve your desirability and attractiveness to a prospective spouse to boundless nearly 2 years ago it was promptly deleted as too offense. Apparently attraction is not deemed important enough to be talked about by Focus on the Family’s Singles blog for dating and marriage to the point where it is instead deemed offensive.
I disagree with some of them categorizations as I probably know more about the human body than the author; however, the vast extent of physical appearance is changeable and can be attractive. The general theme that I always talk about is based on the law of the reciprocal.
In other words, become the ideal spouse of your ideal spouse.
This ignores the blatant reality that no one wants to marry someone that they aren’t attracted to.
Now, I’m probably not the best example of talking about which people are undatable due to attraction issues as I have high standards, but the sad fact is that 67-70% of people in the USA are overweight or obese. No one wants to marry someone that is overweight or obese.
What does the Bible say about interracial marriage? Should a married person have a close friend of the opposite sex? Is it acceptable to God for a husband and wife to have sex while the wife is menstruating / having her period? Why is sexual temptation a bigger problem for men than for women? What does the Bible say about spousal/marital rape?
Recently, I posted about our Q&A times with students at teen camps and retreats. (one way in church, another way at home, dad on the internet) How do you avoid wrong influences when you live with them? How do you take a stand with your friends/what do you do when you have a friend that is becoming rebellious? How do you separate from bad friends without hurting them or making them think you’re stuck up? These questions reveal a lot of real life issues and a strong desire to know “why” or “how.” As adults, we ignore this list to our own detriment.
Over the past five years, hundreds of questions consistently revolve around the same themes. How can I be a witness to my friends and still be accepted? What’s dangerous or wrong with being physical before marriage? Why is it so hard to be consistent in the Christian life as a teenager? What is appropriate and modest clothing for a Christian and why? This is what our young adults are seeking to understand. This is what holds them back spiritually, emotionally, etc.
How can you tell what music is good and what is bad? What do you do if you have parents/siblings who are living the wrong way? Why do authority figures sometimes assume they know what you are thinking? How do I deal with people and problems in my life that have hurt me deeply?
How do you get over/deal with a broken relationship (dating & friendships)? Why does God allow trials/temptations to come into our lives? What does having a relationship/walk with God really mean? Should I consider going to a Christian college and why? In dealing with authority, how can I explain things or make a point without sounding argumentative or disrespectful?