Despite loads of single men, getting a date is a no-man's land. "I'd forgotten what it was like to be flirted with," says Kink and Code blogger Emma Mc Gowan, 27, who noticed it during a recent visit to New York.
"I can't get over how reflexively men flirt in New York." Forget flirting; it sometimes seems as if guys don't see gals, period. It's easy to blame smartphones for replacing the normalcy of spontaneous face-to-face interaction.
But if he doesn’t, we can’t knock em for wanting to stay single so long as they don’t try to make us think otherwise when feelings are or could be invested. just venture outside of your usual friend circles, neighborhoods, and hangouts. Also annoying: We have a lot of “adult frat boys” who still haven’t shifted out of their immature college lifestyles. because to them, something new and shiny around the corner seems more important than nurturing one true and beautiful connection…
' " my friend texted on a recent Tuesday while I was riding BART. For the past week, I realized, I had been too busy living "The Bachelorette." I'd been juggling guys and dates in a refreshing whirlwind of activity that, until recently, had been entirely foreign since I'd re-entered the singles scene almost a year ago. Census data show there are more single men than single women under 65 (though in San Francisco that doesn't necessarily mean single men who want to meet women).
And according to a Facebook study of its users conducted last fall, San Francisco rates highest among major American cities on the ratio of single men to single women.
I think the number of REALLY great men FAR outnumber the idiots here in San Francisco. What we gotta do, is stop giving attention to the dum-dums. just hoping we are wrong and When really, we need to trust that instinct.
But too often we’ll try to convince ourselves otherwise… How often do you wish you would have listened to that gut feeling?