Their nonmember spouse often resents them attending Church meetings, paying tithing, accepting callings, and keeping Church Standards (e.g., Sabbath worship) Finally, it should be mentioned that some Latter-day Saints date nonmembers with no intent of forming a serious lasting relationship.
Unfortunately, despite their intentions, they sometimes fall in love with nonmembers and find themselves emotionally chained and unable to end the relationship.
True, a small percentage have finally been baptized after marrying Church members. Others who did not join the Church were still kind and considerate and cooperative and permitted the member spouse to worship and serve according to the Church patterns.
Some good women and some good men have joined the Church after the mixed marriage and have remained devout and active. But the majority did not join the Church and, as indicated earlier, friction, frustration and divorce marked a great many of their marriages.
To minimize the dangers the girl should by all means make sure that she marries a man who is honorable and good, so that even if he cannot at present be brought to accept the gospel there is a fair chance of his being converted later.
(The Miracle of Forgiveness, p.242) We love those few [non-members] who join the Church after marriage [to a member].
(President Ezra Taft Benson, "To the Youth of the Noble Birthright", Ensign, May 1986, p.
Such dating is most likely to lead to marriage in the House of the Lord.
("Four Bs for Boys", Ensign, November 1981, pp.
If both spouses will live their lives in accordance with the Lord's will, then these priesthood blessings will enhance their marriage in ways not otherwise possible.
(See Teachings About the Family home page) Members who ignore the counsel of Church leaders on this issue are not punished or ostracized by the Church or its membership.