Whenever you are involved with someone who has a past of any kind, in this case a past marriage, you are taking on all the people involved as well, and the history.
How successfully you deal with it depends on many factors. You must consider all the factors and determine if you can accept them.
Is it true a new relationship will be the healing balm for your broken spirit? During my post-divorce years, I remember driving home from work dreading the thought of walking into a cold, dark apartment with no one to greet me, no one to hug me and ask how my day was. There was no one to cook for, and I often didn’t eat dinner because, well, what would be the point?
This is a sensitive issue and a very important one, especially if you are divorced or have a friend or loved one who is divorced and you are trying to offer support. Everyone expects you to move on from your divorce, but is moving past the pain really all about finding someone new?
I still had a lot of healing ahead of me but it was difficult to reconcile that understanding with all the well-meaning, but misguided “help” of friends and co-workers who were trying to get me to dive back into the dating pool before I was ready to swim. There are essentially two types of dating: – Social Dating Social dating usually takes place in groups but is not limited to them.
Contrary to what many people think, the Church does not expect a divorced Catholic to live like a hermit after divorce.
If it’s romantic dating, make sure you are truly free to do this by having a decree of nullity that states you are free to marry, and also make sure your heart is truly ready to be given away. Everyone complains that the divorce rate is high, and it is.
But, if dating means just doing something as a precursor to sex, that should set off your internal alarms. But the rate normally reported pertains to first-time marriages.
– Romantic Dating Romantic dating serves a distinct purpose, which is discerning whether or not the person you are dating is someone you want to marry.
There’s not a whole lot of description needed beyond that one point.