OTOH, if they have no income and aren’t good looking, then they may be doomed to perpetual disappointment in online dating, unless they’re willing to date women who are at or below their league in looks and/or older than their stated age preferences. So in additon to lying about height and probably income (if listed), they’re lying about their age, too?3) I’m actually trying to date age-appropriately, but the men who’ve shown interest to me at age 45 , look mid-50’s to mid-60’s to me. And trying to date younger and out of their league?Not sure that sits well with my desire for honesty in a partner if I can’t exhibit it myself. I’ve had a few dates with men stating they’re 5-7 to 6-6. So now I’m not considering guys under 6′, because he’s probably really 5-9, which I do find appealing.It seems that the under-6-ft guys are definitely adding several inches to their height. 6) So men with average to sub-par looks aren’t listing their income, which could potentially offset their lack of looks or age, are sending me generic cut & paste intro messages, which shows me they really didn’t bother reading my profile. They need to know their league and/or up their online game if they want to play out of their league.Hmmm…Very timely topic as I’ve recently decided to try online dating. 1) Even though my listed target ages are 38-53, men well below that target are contacting me.However, if I like a man’s picture, I respect the age preference listed in his profile, and if I see my age is outside their target, I move on. To be fair to myself though, no guy has made enough money for me to deem him good looking if my initial thought was that he wasn’t.I can’t say it’s a hardship filtering through them to find the ones worth getting to know.
I remember having the same mindset myself at that age. Granted, no one hopes for this outcome and we have these peripheral ideas about needing time with a person to test the relationship, but in the end of the day, serial relationships do more harm than good.However, men’s preferences are shaped not just by looks but by fertility, which is why many have 35 as a cutoff.And while women will write 35-45, they will almost always prefer a man her age or younger.Add this to the annals of studies that confirm things we already know anecdotally.A piece in Time Magazine cites numbers from the Are You Interested Facebook app that concludes that, among 35,942 users ages 30 to 49, a woman was five times more likely to show interest in a man who was five years her junior, rather than one who was five years older.The data shows that a man is only 22% less likely to respond to an older woman than a younger woman if she initiates contact.