Some Christian friends of mine have married non-Christians and I think that works for them, but as I have heard directly from God (or at least I hope so! It is not easy, especially as child-bearing years slip by, especially having given up a very loving relationship 10 years ago.
I can only assume that God has something better planned.''Yes, I have been in a relationship with a non-Christian that was a friend for a couple years then all of a sudden we ended up realising how much we were smitten with each other and the magnetism is beyond powerful.
Ideally, I'd love to be with a Christian, I think that it's right by God, but it's exceptionally tough.''I really don't want to be single, but I also know I don't want to marry a non-Christian.
I have given a few close friends permission to hold me accountable on this and to give me a very hard time if they see me slip.''Have met some lovely caring men along the way but they did not share my faith and conversely some Christian men who shared my faith but who I did not love.
I get more attention from non-Christians, I only hope I am not led into temptation to be with someone who doesn't share my faith, however sympathetic they are.''It's difficult, I find a lot of single women in the church are overly timid, have no real idea who they are and aren't the kind of strong woman I would like to be with.
I meet far more of these people outside of the church, so it does make it difficult.
Many respondents applied their understanding of the Bible – which is supported by experience of dating and marriage with subsequent divorce with non-Christians – to say they would never marry a non-Christian.
I always felt strongly that I wanted to be with a Christian but as time goes on I am more open to other ideas...''I LOVED a non-Christian, I was told if I were to marry him, my dear mentor would stand up for me in the church and resist the wedding. But at the same time I want and still hold out for a CHRISTIAN MAN.
Yet, we could have had kids and made a GO of LIFE.''It depends exactly on the definition of 'Christian'.
I would probably want to marry somebody who has an outlook in which every individual is valued, and where goodness, fairness and honesty are prized as things to be encouraged, and where ambition and self-interest are never put above anything that is wrong.
In particular there is real pain in living with the decision not to marry rather than marry a non-Christian that results in them not having children.
They say that there is little support for them in obedience to their faith in their received teaching.